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Harnessing Positive Tension in Your Life by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Oct 06, 2021 | Comments Off

"The first source of positive tension is a compelling goal that pulls you because of its desirability and magnitude."

When can “tension” in your life actually be a good thing? 
 
Tension is defined as the “state of being stretched tight.” Now, when you hear that, you can probably relate, being stretched to the limits of your ability, energy, or emotional capacity. When our bodies are tense, muscles become knots, and our minds can lock up like overloaded processors because you’re trying to handle or think everything at once.
 
Positive tension is the opposite, when there is a force stretching us for our benefit. Instead of being pulled in all directions, you’re being pulled in a primary direction, or feeling the pull between two important objectives.
 
Two ways you can change from negative tension to positive tension are:
 
1. Use your imagination and thoughts to assess your situation and your goals, letting go of negativity. 
Think of a sailboat. In order to tack into the wind, you need a direction, but if the sails are flapping or luffing, then it becomes a tense or frustrating experience. Yet apply positive tension, and the sails snap to become airfoils, propelling the boat on a confident course.
 
2. Identify your primary goals and adjust how they fit in your life between work, relationships and other areas.
The first source of positive tension is a compelling goal that pulls you because of its desirability and magnitude. It resonates with you, and causes you to stretch your thinking, adjust your sails, learn, and test new skills. It doesn’t feel like effort, so much as an expression of desire and determination, and the process makes you better along the way.
 
Positive tension also results because of the pull between two objectives, both of which are important to us. Work and family. Health and friendship. Limited resources and limitless desires. We may default to see life events as separate, competing for our time, energy, and finances. But the opportunity and abundance happens in the connection, or the tension between the forces of our life.
 
Creativity and inspiration happens because of constraints and exactness of circumstance. I call these connections between your work, relationships, health, spirit, and passions, your “lifelines.” And just like adjusting sails, strengthening and luffing the lifelines, gives a powerful shape to the “pull” of your life.
 
You begin to harness the headwinds to your benefit, because every gust provides another opportunity to test your resolve and improve your clarity about what really matters.
 
So this week, when you’re feeling pulled in multiple directions, recognize that this is a chance to improve your understanding and resourcefulness, using positive tension. You’re not being torn, you’re being honed for greatness. 
 

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The Magic of Words by Phil M Jones

By Phil M Jones | Sep 16, 2021 | Comments Off

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Words paint a thousand pictures, through stories, tales, and more. Creating imaginary worlds to jump into and explore.

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Once upon a time…how those words can still conjure up the magic of childhood for many of us when our parents would read us books at bedtime. Perhaps you are a parent and are reading books to your little ones again.

Words are essential for all of us and have the power to build you up or tear you down. They can spark a war or negotiate peace.

Most adults still find it challenging to find the right words for the right moments.

And many adults still fail to understand the impact of what leaves their mouth, their pen or their keyboard

Could it be possible that reading a book like this with the children in our lives could help raise the consciousness of ourselves AND our children?

The young at heart can also hear simple truths from this book, so get your cup of tea and nestle into your armchair to read this book’s deceptively simple message on how your words each day will change your world.

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Illustrations by Eevi Jones

 

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How to Cope in a World that’s Off Balance by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Sep 09, 2021 | Comments Off

"Embracing an off-balance life allows our minds to learn the patterns that we have created in our life and to determine whether they are working for us, or not."

How are we coping? For many of us, not all that well. The world has become off-balance in ways that we thought were predictable. Mental health conditions are continuing to increase worldwide. There are 47.1 million people in the US, according to Mental Health in America (MHA), that are struggling with anxiety and depression. With statistics like this, it is more important than ever that we learn new coping strategies and new ways to find our life balance.

Bestselling author, Dan Thurmon offers life-changing strategies in his book, Off Balance On Purpose, that will help you cut through the malaise and helplessness you are experiencing about your job, your personal life, and other important aspects of your life. Let’s start with a fundamental question - how do you find the balance in a world that is completely off-balance? First, you must learn to accept the fact that life is not static, but is completely fluid by nature. Embracing an off-balance life allows our minds to learn the patterns that we have created in our life and to determine whether they are working for us, or not.

Next, all aspects of your life are connected to one another. You experience that when you have a personal issue that has made you upset or sad, or you are not feeling well, and it impacts your general mood and approach to life. Many experts and authors tell us that in order to achieve “life balance,” we must keep the various aspects of our life separate – or compartmentalized, like rooms in a house. This line of thought will lead to frustration as our life aspects are like the river, ever-changing and never static.

Understanding what the 5 spheres of influence are in your life will help you see the shape of your life pattern and help you to better integrate your life aspects between the spheres.

The 5 spheres of influence are:
  • Your Work
  • Your Relationships
  • Your Health
  • Your Spiritual Growth
  • Your Passions/Personal Interests

If you look at each of these as 5 different pursuits, you’re always going to be overwhelmed – there’s never enough time. But, when you see these 5 spheres as interconnected, you will see that small or big adjustments can be made to the connections between them. I call the connections between these spheres, lifelines.

The 10 lifelines are the key to a more fulfilling life and rewarding life – they are:

  1. Work Relationships
  2. Work Health
  3. Work Spiritual Growth
  4. Work Personal Interests
  5. Relationships Health
  6. Relationships Spiritual Growth
  7. Relationships Personal Interests
  8. Health Spiritual Growth
  9. Health Personal Interests
  10. Spiritual Health Personal Interests

When you began to anticipate, prepare for, and correct breaks along your lifelines, you will begin to see a more fulfilled life. How about work and health? Does your job support you to be healthy or challenge your health in certain ways? If so, what are you going to do about that?

Evaluate the lifelines between your 5 spheres of influence - are there changes you can make that will bring more harmony between the aspects of your life? Are there new ways of thinking that will eliminate negativity that is holding you back in one area, while impacting another one? Your mind is powerful – what you think is what you are. Change the patterns and choose to become off-balance, on purpose. You will be amazed at the happiness that is within your reach.

 

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Should You Do In-Person Events This Fall? by Phil M Jones

By Phil M Jones | Sep 07, 2021 | Comments Off

In person events provide one of the most in-depth learning experiences that is almost impossible to recreate in a virtual setting.

Last month, Phil M Jones did an event for American Equity in Las Vegas. When we chatted after the event, he said that he "felt safer at every part of that event than he does getting supplies from the grocery store." We asked him why and thought that his answers might be of interest to all of you who are seriously re-looking at your in-person events.

WE ASKED THE CLIENT:  How much extra effort/burden did all of your protocols put on your team/company?

And, we are very grateful that his client gave us his perspective as well which you'll also find below.

PS: a big shout-out to Speakers Spotlight for connecting Phil with their American Equity client!

KAREN: Was there anything your client at American Equity did to make you feel safe prior to the event?

PHIL: Prior to the event there was a level of diligence that really helped to give confidence that 2 things were being taken very seriously. One was the well-being of all who participated in the event itself and second was an unrelenting passion for creating a fabulous experience for attendees.

Making the effort to ensure all attendees could show a recent negative test was a huge reassurance in their dedication to safety, especially when backed up with not only their persistence in securing and documenting my own personal result, but also their numerous steps at the event itself.

KAREN: What happened when you arrived in Vegas? Was there something special that was done for you at the airport? with the car service? upon your arrival at The Cosmopolitan?

PHIL: As a solo traveller, I feel that typically I can navigate my own logistics to avoid too many unknowns, but the airport meet and greet removed an additional layer of human interaction that was very welcome.

KAREN: What type of protocols were implemented on-site for the attendees and yourself that made you feel safe and still like a human being?

PHIL: I think this is where things really shined. They created a dedicated space for their event and attendees. The main event hall, the lobby areas plus all the food and entertainment amenities were all private to event attendees only, were incredibly spacious and even the fact that a dedicated member of staff was serving coffees from the urn, plus dedicated staff were creating custom food plates, made a welcome and comforting change to the free-for-all of many past events.

When these steps were added to a well communicated and respected, colored lanyard, social distancing guideline, plus ample space for all attendees having their own dedicated desk space in the meeting room - there seemed to be ample space and respect to converse and communicate freely while being at a comfortable social distance.

Finally, there was an unwritten respect and grace that all presenters and on site staff had for all protocols - nobody was cracking jokes at the seriousness being taken - regular moments were taken to re-communicate the protocols to all attendees - and it was mostly normalized without judgement. This resulted in people seemingly accepting the rules as opposed to debating their place - this made for far more meaningful conversations.

KAREN: How valuable do you think this in-person event was for re-connecting and learning for the attendees?

PHIL: In-person events provide one of the most in-depth learning experiences that is almost impossible to recreate in a virtual setting. I am talking about peer to peer commentary, reflection, reinvention and creation. It is essential to spend time learning from the real experiences of others and challenge everyone’s thoughts by presenting them with new areas of focus.

A great speaker does the important job of sharing new ideas and then in turn starting new conversations - in-person events then develop those conversations, turning them into shared experience, collaborative thinking and then help create lasting change.

So many people are lacking inspiration, direction and purpose right now as well as a shared frustration. An in-person event can help deliver solutions to all those problems, with attendees leaving empowered, inspired, belonging and re-energized.

KAREN: Do you have any advice for anyone who is re-thinking their in-person event?

PHIL: The start of EVERY event is the audience and the responsibility for all of us in the industry is to deliver experiences that change their world. If you can still work within some very real constraints to create a life changing experience then fighting to achieve that, as opposed to picking the option of re-scheduling or streaming recorded content online, could well be worth the extra effort and energy.

Not ALL events should run - but we all know that GREAT events are one of the most powerful tools we all hold a part in to change our world.

WE ASKED THE CLIENT:  How much extra effort/burden did all of your protocols put on your team/company?

JOHN LICKTEIG, AMERICAN EQUITY: I will say there was a lot of extra effort that went forth in planning this event and was completely different from events I’ve done in the past. However we wanted to make sure all of our attendees felt safe in the environment they were in and I think my company delivered that flawlessly. We outlined and communicated all of the protocols that were set in place in order to host this live event.

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Change Your World by Changing One Word by Phil M Jones

By Phil M Jones | Aug 12, 2021 | Comments Off

 

How important are your words? Is it possible to change the outcome in sales or in in your relationships when you change just one word?

Bestselling author of, “Exactly What to Say,” Phil M Jones says that is exactly what happened to Jessica, a client of his who is in the real estate world. During his phone call with her, she explained that for a period of time in her business the world of real estate had gone “crazy.” Crazy time to buy, crazy time to sell – the result was that people started behaving kind of crazy.

She decided to change the word “crazy,” that she used to describe the real estate environment, to the word “rapid.” By using this new word, she realized that the time to buy was now, that people needed to act quickly. As a result, her customers realized instantaneously that the time was now to be making decisions, that this was the moment to respond – there was no time for indecision. It changed her world by changing one word.

Think about how you’ve been describing the last 12 to 18 months in your world. Challenging. Stressful. Refreshing. Awakening. Has the adjective you’ve been reaching for to describe what you’ve been through something that is serving you today? Or, is it merely commentary from the past on a personal emotion? If you change that adjective to something more constructive, it will give you something to build on. Choose the word that best enunciates what you been through, that gives you a platform to build from and you will start building and stop looking backwards, wishing life was easier.

Remember this above all else:  When you change your words, you can change your world. Jessica proved that in the example of moving from “crazy” to “rapid.”

How are you changing the words that are enunciating what you’re looking for in your organization right now?


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How to Turn Chaos into Positive Chaos by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Jul 27, 2021 | Comments Off

"You Can Learn How to be More Confident and Comfortable in the Midst of Change"

What if CHAOS isn’t a bad thing? How can you harness constant change into a force for growth and opportunity? Dan Thurmon, author of Off Balance On Purpose, teaches how to excel in uncertainty and take confident action right now to create amplified, desirable future outcomes.
 

This is a challenging time for organizations and leaders to adapt and keep moving forward in the ever-changing chaos of the world around us. The one thing we have learned in the last year and half is that we can’t predict what’s coming next and many things are often out of our control.

 
Gain insights and tools to transform your C.H.A.O.S. from “Challenging, Hectic, Anxious, Overwhelming Stress” into “Challenging, Healthy, Aspirational, Ongoing Symmetry.”
 
Learn to see clear patterns in what now appears random, and take intentional action to shape them for your benefit!
 
When you apply these Positive Chaos principles to your personal life, your work and your world, you will be more confident and comfortable in the midst of change. You will be more resourceful and precise with the ability to succeed and lead others.
 

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The 5 things to STOP doing if you want a better future. - by Phil M Jones

By Phil M Jones | Jul 19, 2021 | Comments Off

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The daily choices and actions you make will inevitably shape your life greater than any external event.

Here are just 5 lenses that help me, have helped others AND could quite possibly help you too.

1. STOP looking for PRAISE and instead SEEK trusted feedback.

Sure, a compliment can add a warm, fuzzy feeling to a moment, but the relentless quest for acknowledgement is more likely to fuel anxieties and promote depression than genuinely build you up. Worse than this, is the people that you and I grant the power to influence your real life. Advice and opinions are certainly not the same things and choosing the specific individuals that can add perspective, experience and wisdom to help you shape your future is a discipline that can garner huge positive effects.

2. STOP counting your FOLLOWERS and SERVE the people that entrust you with their attention.

For full disclosure, this is still very much work in progress in my own world. Yet writing it down is just another process to help solidify a new habit. Ego is ever present and managing its power in a modern world is more challenging than ever. Businesses chase new clients, individuals are focused on meeting new people and success in a digital world is often validated by a quantity metric that is only ever satisfied when the never-ending objective of “more” is achieved.

Picture the difference you and I could manifest if that effort and attention was instead pointed at what already existed. Businesses obsessed about serving their existing relationships, you and I obsessed about the people we love that already exist in our lives. On social media, we all just got busy serving the people that have already clicked a button to commit that they are interested in what you have to say.

Just imagine how much more you could achieve with what is already within your reach.

3. STOP WORRYING about others and focus on your own HABITS instead.

The comparison trap is real. And adding to our deep-rooted desire to see how we fare alongside others is the other sabotaging human trait of judgement. When the focus is external, you can only ever follow your inquisition with feelings of disappointment or worthlessness.

A great mentor once shared with me the wisdom that if you are to ever compare yourself to anyone, you must compare the whole of you, with the whole of them. An almost impossible task, yet the very attempt has you quickly realising that your own progress lies in your own habits and any shortcomings you have versus others are almost always countered by a significant benefit you have by alternative.

4. STOP referencing the PAST as evidence that controls your FUTURE.

There are very few things in life I am certain of and one of those few things is uncertainty. I feel confident that nothing stays the same and what was once true is not necessarily true today. Life to me is like water. It’s fluid and ever-changing, and our choices become the vessels that contain said water.

It’s easy to avoid new choices and create conflict by stating things like “you said…” and “last time” as articles of evidence to support today’s decision making. The tough part is accepting that a thought or feeling in the past, is nothing more than a momentary opinion. Opinions can change through experience and allowing yourself to evolve your own opinions based on new experiences is key to your own organic growth.

To change your reality, you must first change how you think.

5. STOP CELEBRATING the finish line and start working on the STEPS.

Jeez this drives me crazy. I see it all the time and fail to understand why so many people make this choice. Achieving big things is typically hard work, yet too many people celebrate the outcome of the thing they are working on before they have done the work and as such, remove the possibility of the true celebration later. Further challenge from this set of actions is that the euphoric feelings of an early celebration are soon replaced with an anxious reality of what now needs to be done, without the pull of the future victory celebration to help you go the distance.

I remember a conversation with two dear friends in a bar in Boston, where one of them shared the old saying “It’s the second mouse that gets the cheese”. Think on that for a second. The vivid reality of a baited trap and the knowledge that the first mouse is likely to lose its life, and the more patient one gets a risk-free snack is a metaphor that may instil a little extra patience in how quickly you proclaim your next victory.

From achieving life goals with my family, career and personally – it seems to have served me better to put my head down and work on what needs to get done and save the real celebrations for when the real milestones are achieved. This as opposed to reaching straight for social media the moment a new idea is considered - a new venture is launched - or some good news hits my inbox.

Sometimes the applause can help you go the distance. Other times it can be a giant distraction that prevents you reaching your desired outcome.

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Happy Canada Day & 4th of July from cmi

By cmiadmin | Jun 29, 2021 | Comments Off

Happy Canada Day & 4th of July from cmi.

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We are grateful for our incredible speakers. They work hard to transform the world, one person at a time. Their inspiration and leadership shines in best-selling books, videos, blogs, podcasts and incredible keynotes that launch profound change for leaders, individuals and organizations. From all of us here at cmi, we wish everyone in North America a very Happy Canada Day and 4th of July. We've earned it this year for sure!!!   xoxo

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Change Your Words, Change Your World

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How Do You Prepare for Returning to Work Post-Covid by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Jun 23, 2021 | Comments Off

"It’s the stretching to what’s next, or what’s different that improves you, whether you plan it or not!"

Millions of people around the world are experiencing or will soon experience the reality of returning to a physical workplace. For some, this is a welcome and joyous, overdue event. And for others, quite the opposite is true.

Either way, as you reintegrate into work, or lead your staff to do so, I would wholeheartedly recommend that you do it with a very intentional, personal plan.

You’re not going back to work. You’re upgrading your workplace systems. You are bringing lessons and skills you’ve learned while away, which you may not even fully appreciate yet, back into a physical realm where you and your improved skills will intersect others and their personal improvements. Expect it!

For instance, I am now returning to stages, audiences, and in-person events, after many months away. And what I’m discovering is that rather than feeling that I’m relearning what was, I’m bringing so much more to the table. More content, more awareness, deeper understanding, more appreciation, more attention, and a style that is now imbued with a new confidence.

Look. The hard stuff you go through makes you stronger, a point I make about juggling. When I was working on four, my three ball juggling got better, and I never got the hang of four, until I tried five. It’s the stretching to what’s next, or what’s different that improves you, whether you plan it or not!

You’ve been stretched and improved by what you’ve been through. Own it. Claim it, with specificity. And step back in confidently, and curious for your enhancements. If you are leading others, have a conversation about what’s better now, and set an expectation that you’re about to experience new and profound breakthroughs as a result.

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The Ripple Effect by Chris Bashinelli

By Chris Bashinelli | Jun 07, 2021 | Comments Off

"Working with students and educators gives us the ability to affect change on a profound level."

What’s most inspiring to me about working with educational groups is the “ripple effect.” Working with students and educators gives us the ability to affect change on a profound level. Student's minds are malleable and still open to new ideas. The older we get, we sometimes get fixed in our ways, unwilling to look at the same problem from a new angle. Students however, are often willing to take a much more fresh and open approach to learning and problem-solving. In this way, they teach us much about adaptability and understanding.
 
When we can introduce new and positive ideas into young minds, the ripple effect of that learning can have a more profound impact than we could ever imagine. Because that change happens at an early time, it has the ability to influence a student’s direction for the rest of their lives, and all of the people they encounter throughout their life. This change can positively impact one’s career, family life and even an entire community. 
 
Educators are like farmers - the seeds they plant have the ability to have inspiring benefits down the line, which we may not be able to see right now. It’s a ripple effect because the ideas the teachers and educators present to their students have the potential not only to impact their student's lives directly, but all of the people they encounter throughout the course of their life. In this way, a single workshop, story, video, lesson or even a single idea is like a stone being dropped into a lake. Although we can only see the immediate waves of change that result from that stone, the positive ripple effect can extend beyond even the limits of our imagination. 
 
My hope with these educational workshops is that we can bring an accessible approach to inclusion and diversity that helps us not only accept, but truly appreciate each of our cultures as a way to celebrate our shared humanity. I hope we can bring an easy to understand approach to mental health that gives students and educators the tools they need to reduce stress and increase peace. Finally, I hope the workshops remind us of our own deepest truths, so that we have the courage to share them with the world.
 
I look forward to meeting you soon,
Chris
 

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