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Harnessing Positive Tension in Your Life by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Oct 06, 2021 | Comments Off

"The first source of positive tension is a compelling goal that pulls you because of its desirability and magnitude."

When can “tension” in your life actually be a good thing? 
 
Tension is defined as the “state of being stretched tight.” Now, when you hear that, you can probably relate, being stretched to the limits of your ability, energy, or emotional capacity. When our bodies are tense, muscles become knots, and our minds can lock up like overloaded processors because you’re trying to handle or think everything at once.
 
Positive tension is the opposite, when there is a force stretching us for our benefit. Instead of being pulled in all directions, you’re being pulled in a primary direction, or feeling the pull between two important objectives.
 
Two ways you can change from negative tension to positive tension are:
 
1. Use your imagination and thoughts to assess your situation and your goals, letting go of negativity. 
Think of a sailboat. In order to tack into the wind, you need a direction, but if the sails are flapping or luffing, then it becomes a tense or frustrating experience. Yet apply positive tension, and the sails snap to become airfoils, propelling the boat on a confident course.
 
2. Identify your primary goals and adjust how they fit in your life between work, relationships and other areas.
The first source of positive tension is a compelling goal that pulls you because of its desirability and magnitude. It resonates with you, and causes you to stretch your thinking, adjust your sails, learn, and test new skills. It doesn’t feel like effort, so much as an expression of desire and determination, and the process makes you better along the way.
 
Positive tension also results because of the pull between two objectives, both of which are important to us. Work and family. Health and friendship. Limited resources and limitless desires. We may default to see life events as separate, competing for our time, energy, and finances. But the opportunity and abundance happens in the connection, or the tension between the forces of our life.
 
Creativity and inspiration happens because of constraints and exactness of circumstance. I call these connections between your work, relationships, health, spirit, and passions, your “lifelines.” And just like adjusting sails, strengthening and luffing the lifelines, gives a powerful shape to the “pull” of your life.
 
You begin to harness the headwinds to your benefit, because every gust provides another opportunity to test your resolve and improve your clarity about what really matters.
 
So this week, when you’re feeling pulled in multiple directions, recognize that this is a chance to improve your understanding and resourcefulness, using positive tension. You’re not being torn, you’re being honed for greatness. 
 

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How to Cope in a World that’s Off Balance by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Sep 09, 2021 | Comments Off

"Embracing an off-balance life allows our minds to learn the patterns that we have created in our life and to determine whether they are working for us, or not."

How are we coping? For many of us, not all that well. The world has become off-balance in ways that we thought were predictable. Mental health conditions are continuing to increase worldwide. There are 47.1 million people in the US, according to Mental Health in America (MHA), that are struggling with anxiety and depression. With statistics like this, it is more important than ever that we learn new coping strategies and new ways to find our life balance.

Bestselling author, Dan Thurmon offers life-changing strategies in his book, Off Balance On Purpose, that will help you cut through the malaise and helplessness you are experiencing about your job, your personal life, and other important aspects of your life. Let’s start with a fundamental question - how do you find the balance in a world that is completely off-balance? First, you must learn to accept the fact that life is not static, but is completely fluid by nature. Embracing an off-balance life allows our minds to learn the patterns that we have created in our life and to determine whether they are working for us, or not.

Next, all aspects of your life are connected to one another. You experience that when you have a personal issue that has made you upset or sad, or you are not feeling well, and it impacts your general mood and approach to life. Many experts and authors tell us that in order to achieve “life balance,” we must keep the various aspects of our life separate – or compartmentalized, like rooms in a house. This line of thought will lead to frustration as our life aspects are like the river, ever-changing and never static.

Understanding what the 5 spheres of influence are in your life will help you see the shape of your life pattern and help you to better integrate your life aspects between the spheres.

The 5 spheres of influence are:
  • Your Work
  • Your Relationships
  • Your Health
  • Your Spiritual Growth
  • Your Passions/Personal Interests

If you look at each of these as 5 different pursuits, you’re always going to be overwhelmed – there’s never enough time. But, when you see these 5 spheres as interconnected, you will see that small or big adjustments can be made to the connections between them. I call the connections between these spheres, lifelines.

The 10 lifelines are the key to a more fulfilling life and rewarding life – they are:

  1. Work Relationships
  2. Work Health
  3. Work Spiritual Growth
  4. Work Personal Interests
  5. Relationships Health
  6. Relationships Spiritual Growth
  7. Relationships Personal Interests
  8. Health Spiritual Growth
  9. Health Personal Interests
  10. Spiritual Health Personal Interests

When you began to anticipate, prepare for, and correct breaks along your lifelines, you will begin to see a more fulfilled life. How about work and health? Does your job support you to be healthy or challenge your health in certain ways? If so, what are you going to do about that?

Evaluate the lifelines between your 5 spheres of influence - are there changes you can make that will bring more harmony between the aspects of your life? Are there new ways of thinking that will eliminate negativity that is holding you back in one area, while impacting another one? Your mind is powerful – what you think is what you are. Change the patterns and choose to become off-balance, on purpose. You will be amazed at the happiness that is within your reach.

 

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How to Turn Chaos into Positive Chaos by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Jul 27, 2021 | Comments Off

"You Can Learn How to be More Confident and Comfortable in the Midst of Change"

What if CHAOS isn’t a bad thing? How can you harness constant change into a force for growth and opportunity? Dan Thurmon, author of Off Balance On Purpose, teaches how to excel in uncertainty and take confident action right now to create amplified, desirable future outcomes.
 

This is a challenging time for organizations and leaders to adapt and keep moving forward in the ever-changing chaos of the world around us. The one thing we have learned in the last year and half is that we can’t predict what’s coming next and many things are often out of our control.

 
Gain insights and tools to transform your C.H.A.O.S. from “Challenging, Hectic, Anxious, Overwhelming Stress” into “Challenging, Healthy, Aspirational, Ongoing Symmetry.”
 
Learn to see clear patterns in what now appears random, and take intentional action to shape them for your benefit!
 
When you apply these Positive Chaos principles to your personal life, your work and your world, you will be more confident and comfortable in the midst of change. You will be more resourceful and precise with the ability to succeed and lead others.
 

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Happy Canada Day & 4th of July from cmi

By cmiadmin | Jun 29, 2021 | Comments Off

Happy Canada Day & 4th of July from cmi.

cmi Carefully Selects Keynote Speakers that Empower Organizations

We are grateful for our incredible speakers. They work hard to transform the world, one person at a time. Their inspiration and leadership shines in best-selling books, videos, blogs, podcasts and incredible keynotes that launch profound change for leaders, individuals and organizations. From all of us here at cmi, we wish everyone in North America a very Happy Canada Day and 4th of July. We've earned it this year for sure!!!   xoxo

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Chris-Bashinelli

Cultivating Connection Post-Covid

— Chris Bashinelli

ClintPulver

I Love it Here - "Undercover Millennial"

— Clint Pulver

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Stay Off Balance On Purpose

— Dan Thurmon

HeatherRYounger

The Art of Caring Leadership

— Heather R. Younger

JohnGucciFoley

Glad to Be Here

— John 'Gucci' Foley

MikeRayburn

Create Proactive Change for Peak Performance

— Mike Rayburn

MikeWalsh

Elevate Automation AND Your People

— Mike Walsh

PhilMJones

Change Your Words, Change Your World

— Phil M Jones

TimSanders

Getting Ahead of Post-Covid Burnout

— Tim Sanders

TyBennett

Create the Ninja Warrior Mindset

— Ty Bennett

VinhGiang

Improve Collaboration and Create Innovation

— Vinh Giang

 

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How Do You Prepare for Returning to Work Post-Covid by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | Jun 23, 2021 | Comments Off

"It’s the stretching to what’s next, or what’s different that improves you, whether you plan it or not!"

Millions of people around the world are experiencing or will soon experience the reality of returning to a physical workplace. For some, this is a welcome and joyous, overdue event. And for others, quite the opposite is true.

Either way, as you reintegrate into work, or lead your staff to do so, I would wholeheartedly recommend that you do it with a very intentional, personal plan.

You’re not going back to work. You’re upgrading your workplace systems. You are bringing lessons and skills you’ve learned while away, which you may not even fully appreciate yet, back into a physical realm where you and your improved skills will intersect others and their personal improvements. Expect it!

For instance, I am now returning to stages, audiences, and in-person events, after many months away. And what I’m discovering is that rather than feeling that I’m relearning what was, I’m bringing so much more to the table. More content, more awareness, deeper understanding, more appreciation, more attention, and a style that is now imbued with a new confidence.

Look. The hard stuff you go through makes you stronger, a point I make about juggling. When I was working on four, my three ball juggling got better, and I never got the hang of four, until I tried five. It’s the stretching to what’s next, or what’s different that improves you, whether you plan it or not!

You’ve been stretched and improved by what you’ve been through. Own it. Claim it, with specificity. And step back in confidently, and curious for your enhancements. If you are leading others, have a conversation about what’s better now, and set an expectation that you’re about to experience new and profound breakthroughs as a result.

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How do you deal with uncertainty? by Dan Thurmon

By Dan Thurmon | May 17, 2021 | Comments Off

"When you lean into the uncertainty, create a new action and go off-balance on purpose, you position yourself for greater success."

Imagine doing a handstand on a podium. Feel your body trying to balance against the wobble, as you try to keep your body straight in the air. After all the effort of trying to position your body up in the air, while the podium shifts back and forth, you are still in the same place, only a lot more exhausted. This is how many organizations and teams deal with uncertainty.

When your teams are fatigued, anxious and productivity has slowed, you feel the foundation is shifting and things feel unstable. It’s easy to hold on tight to the same processes and strategies, but this is a mistake and will keep your people from being agile and rising to the top.

In every uncertainty, there is a huge opportunity to create something extraordinary. When you lean into the uncertainty, create a new action and go off-balance on purpose, you position yourself for greater success.

Balance is not what you get. Balance is what you do.

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Embracing Failure - Ty Bennett

By Ty Bennett | May 07, 2021 | Comments Off

"Ninja is the perfect metaphor for Success."

I think most people see success as one direction and failure in the exact opposite direction but I don’t think that is true. 

My experience has taught me that you have to pass through failure to find success. In other words, they are the same path. 

The problem is that failure stops us and so we don’t get far enough down the path. 

Successful people learn to embrace failure, learn from it, and use it as fuel. 

Sarah Blakely, the founder of Spanx, is someone who understands this mindset. When Sarah was growing up, her family would have family dinner every night. But unlike most families, their discussions weren’t just about the events of the day or how school went. Sarah’s father every night at dinner would ask the family, “How did you fail today?” 

That question spurred their conversation and they would share their failures. They would discuss what they learned. How it felt. I’m sure they would laugh with each other and sometimes cry together. 

I find it fascinating though, that the youngest self-made female billionaire in the world learned at a young age to embrace failure.

I don’t think it is a coincidence. 

I think that a mindset that embraces failure and uses it as a stepping stone allows us to move further down the path to reach the success we are seeking. 

 

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One of The Pitfalls of Success - Ty Bennett

By cmiadmin | Jul 05, 2017 | Comments Off

After hours, weeks and years of hard work, it is amazing when that hard work starts to pay off and you start to see success and your goals coming to fruition. But so many fall into a similar trap as they begin to experience some success: a lack of humility. These words from Wynton Marsalis, the Pulitzer-prize winning musician and composer, serve as a necessary reminder when you begin to experience success: “You can tell when someone is truly humble, because they consistently observe and listen, the humble improve. They don’t assume, ‘I know the way.’ Humility engenders learning because it beats back the arrogance that puts blinders on. It leaves you open for truths to reveal themselves.”

You can be at the top of your field, the most successful person in the room, the all star, but arrogance never looks good on anyone. There is a great danger in the loss of humility not just because it makes you look bad, but also because it inhibits your ability to grow and improve. No matter how skilled you are – you can’t ever stop benefiting from more knowledge.

Failure is the Price of Success - Vinh Giang

By cmiadmin | Jun 06, 2017 | Comments Off

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WnAmqAXottQ

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How do you measure success? Sam Silverstein

By cmiadmin | Feb 01, 2017 | Comments Off

Sam Silverstein, a thought leader in the area of business growth and accountability, asks how you measure success in this video. By the numbers? or how you build leaders? or what you do in your community?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sGaD1U4WIE&t=11s

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